We took the kids in to see my dad today - Sadie hasn't been in for a few days and it was Archie's first visit. In many ways it was wonderful to see dad with the kids, he said hiya 3 times to Sadie and he sang her the 1st line of Aly baly bee (I discussed music therapy with his nurse today). She is totally natural with him, she sat on his bed for easily 10mins reading him his cards, pointing to the pictures and telling him what they were, while he oo'd and ahh'd in all the right places. Archie was quite timid to start with but as time went on he relaxed and was finally more interested in the electric bed and the bed guards - he did show dad his trains and tell him about them, but he was aware that it wasn't his 'usual' grandad.
My heart breaks thinking about what he has lost, I can't begin to go there - I just have to think if this is what we have now we will make the most of it. The kids will adapt and more than likely forget a time when granda was his 'usual' self.
In terms of dad he is making slow progress - he is still trying to escape the ward. He was caught at the lifts today pressing the button to go down - luckily they caught him. Mum has had to buy 2 rather brightly coloured t shirts for him to wear so he can be spotted and easily identified, she showed him them tonight and he burst out laughing. He said Oh Hi when I walked in tonight to visiting and he is making more effort to try and talk. Our encounter with SALT today was a little depressing, he never sugar coats anything, so it is tough going.
phew - pretty exhausting this roller coaster of emotion.
Pugs finals went well, he is quietly confident - actually he said 'i'm not suicidal' about it - same diff no?
Had a nice hug wi dad before I left, xxxxx
We all also want to say a huge thanks to everyone for there messages of kindness and offers of help. As for my lovely pals, thanks girls - not ready to come out the bubble as of yet, but I will try again soon. Good to feel the love and know that the support is there.
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